Milky Dreams

My gorgeous mumma friend came over for a visit. She tells me that her nearly 6 month old baby has been sleeping through the night for months.
I ask her the secret. ⠀
She describes her routine.⠀

6:30 pm food
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7pm jammies on

7:15 lullaby

7:20 lights out mobile on. Drowsy but awake. Door closed. Monitor on. Self-soothing. Baby asleep. Adult time.⠀
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I take a deep breath.
My nearly ten-month-old baby doesn’t sleep through the night.⠀
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We don’t follow a schedule.we never really have.

But we have a rhythm of sorts.
Depending on the day.
It may be…a bath with Dad.⠀ Silly time.⠀
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Story time.⠀ Always a lullaby and always milky cuddles with mummy. ⠀
I lay in the darkness beside him & watch the rise & fall of his chest, holding him close, smelling his head and smiling to myself. ⠀
This is one of my favourite parts of the day, but it feels bittersweet. , I  miss him…even though he’s right there. I will never have "today" back again. Tomorrow he will be bigger older, stronger. Every day he is a little less baby a little more child. ⠀
I try to stay awake in my oxytocin-filled slumber.⠀
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I reach for my phone. 8:13pm. Not bad, i think to myself . Although i realise your friend’s baby has been asleep for over an hour by now.⠀
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I wait 20 minutes before moving as my baby drifts from lighter to deeper sleep. I extract my now numb arm from under my baby’s neck.⠀
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He rouses. I freeze. Phew…it was a false alarm. He rolls over. still asleep.⠀
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I ninja-roll out of bed, all of the creaks and squeaks announce themselves... I am certain I have woken him.
I quietly tiptoe out of the room.
I prop the door open with a pillow. I readjust my  top.⠀
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My husband has just finished cleaning the kitchen . I appreciate him; now more than ever. He is literally my entire village. My anchor. My safe space.⠀
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I collapse into his arms, which feel so big now compared to the tiny arms that fill my days. He holds me tight & I relax.

My baby may rouse at the end of this sleep cycle…he won’t wake up, but he’ll reach for me in his dreams. To him, I  and he are one, not two. His sixth sense will notice if im missing.⠀